A MOMENT OF GRIEF.......

We always lose someone we love,
Sometimes we blame God
But everything has its own ending
A happy ending sometimes...
Some go to heaven, some go to hell
But at least they can't feel the pain
on this mean world anymore...
How people treated them while they were still alive.
When they were still alive,
We did our best to push them away.
But when they are gone,
We want them back....
We want them during the times
our house feels empty without their noise,
our phone being silent without their calls,
our nights without them...
the times when we need their advices...
the times when we need their hug while we are crying...
Their memories keeps us alive,
Their memories makes us to smile....
Makes us laugh, and at that point
Makes us cry sometimes....
We grab their clothes, their favorite stuffs
and pretend its him/her...
The last smile he/she gave you
while he/she was gone
The time he/she said.....
"You'll be alright, I'm goin' to watch over you"
The are not gone, he/she is just somewhere
Somewhere he/she can rest peacefully...
It tears our heart apart
Every time we smell their scent
Every time we see their photos...
The most hurtful part is when we left something unspoken,
We sometimes blame ourselves too..
Why not us!! Why it had to be them??
Life recycles,
When someone leaves,
Someone will come...
They are just like angels,
They are meant to be with you for a short time..
Make you happy,
Feel alright when you're down...
Death teaches us
How to love someone so much
while they are still alive...
Death is not a sad thing,
He/she will meet someone in heaven,
Someone they really love,
Who passed away long back...
We can't control death,
But what we can control is time
in our own ways....
Because  somewhere out there...
He/she is just watching you...
Still helping you...


(I wrote this to help my friend who recently lost her mother. R.I.P)

 

I AM SORRY....I REALLY MEAN IT....

“Would 'sorry' have made any difference? Does it ever? It's just a word. One word against a thousand actions.”- Sarah Ockler


Welcome to the 21st century where hardly any conversation is made without the word- no my friends, it is not f!@#k, though it is equally gaining popularity. it is the most magical word we homo sapiens have created. Ladies and gentlemen, i present it to you, "SORRY".

The word sorry is abused these days a lot by people. I am no exception. Now i feel that people no longer mean it when they say, like ‘sorry we are closed’ or ‘sorry I kept you waiting’. I even get meaningless apologies from TATA SKY (DTH  connection) when they frequently interrupt the telecast due to rain, and used to apologize with a screen that said ‘sorry for the interruption’. 

The value of sorry has started to diminish. Nowadays, if you really mean it, you have to specifically say so, like ‘I am sorry and I really mean it’ or ‘I am really sorry’. By the way, I am really sorry I don’t know who Sarah Ockler whom i have quoted above, is.

Every person offers apology for anything these days. Sorry has just become a word. It is free of cost. And it comes with the added advantage of making receiver happy. Like a husband saying sorry to his wife for forgetting their anniversary. However, there are still few people who think it is below their self esteem to utter sorry, no matter how wrong they are.

My funda is simple.  I, too am a human. I too make mistakes and sometimes have hurt people and and knowingly or unknowingly, it will happen even in the future. If my actions have caused any harm, offense, discomfort or inconvenience to a person, I apologize straightaway. Haa.. I apologize to you for this blog.

One important thing should be kept in mind. Timing. If you delay, the issue could get complicated and the injured party might not be open to your sorry business. But you surely would always be able to better Vatican’s timing, which apologises a few hundred years after the injured parties are no longer around, like when it apologized to Galileo in 1992 after 359 years. And yes, if you don’t ask forgiveness now, it is quite possible that tomorrow you may no longer feel guilty!

 I have come across people who give fake apologies. They are good at giving false apology, which sounds like a real apology without taking any blame for the action. Like the thief who is sorry that he is sentenced to 10 years prison and not that he is a thief!! Then there are few people in this world who get angry if the apology is not accepted. Like this guy in a movie who was caught two-timing and was shouting at his girlfriend, “I told you I am sorry. NOW what is your problem?” 

A really good method of apologizing is to seek forgiveness by bringing out to the other person’s good self. Probably getting a little emotional also helps. Like the other day when my mom was out of town and I was strictly instructed to water the plants which I happily forgot to do. I told her, "I am really sorry, but the beautiful mother you are, both from outside and inside and the kind hearted personality you have got which I hope to instil in myself one day, I know you'll forgive me". I got my favorite chocolate cake with vanilla ice cream that day.

But men, if you want a successful relationship or a marriage, then you must be willing to apologize to each other. Whenever you're wrong, apologize to your wife; and whenever she is wrong, apologize to her, like a true man

Just remember that to err is human. You will commit mistakes. small and big ones. You'll hurt people whom you love and who love you. The best way to correct wrong actions is to try lying, blaming others, making excuses or justify your actions. Or you could sing Akon's "Blame it on me".

If nothing works, open my blog and read this post. I don't know whether it will help you or not, but it will increase my page views count.